Why am I the last to know?

Why do you tell me things in the last hour?
Do you feel like its unnecessary to tell me?
Do I not deserve to know?

scattered thoughts

"There are no guarantees.
From the viewpoint of fear,
none are strong enough.
From the viewpoint of love,
none are necessary.

Randomness is truly.....random
thougths are scattered and uncollected
this is no discussion for its merely a collection of
things that run through my mind

I find that I'm not too good at expressing myself
can't do it through writing, cause that requires too much thinking
and when I think, I filter, and when I filter,
it's not really what I'm thinking anymore
but probably
a lighter less intense version

As for speaking,
requires thinking also for I'm not one that speaks my mind
unless it does not involve myself

Actions however I think
are my truest form of expression.
I may not speak, but I act upon

I'm good at telling other people what to do
but I never listen to myself
not that I don't want to
but dishing out is way easier than taking in.....

How does one know if something is worth waiting for?
is there a sign? just a feeling?
any scientific proof or strong evidence
or is everything just abstract,
something you can't see nor touch

Love is an illusion
what issit? what does it look like?
is there a smell? or feel to it?
how does one know when it is encountered
we hear of it, but how many actually know what it is
Unrequited love is not love
for it is just a one sided illusion of butterflies and rainbows
a shiok sendiri fantasy
which when awaken from, hurts like hell

Would one rather be loved, or love?

Would you rather have 1 year of mind-blowing sex followed by 4 years of celibacy
or 5 years of mediocre sex?

Would you rather not eat chocolate for the rest of your life or attend a party in your birthday suit?

Would you rather gain 20lbs or age 20 years?

Would you rather age from the neck up or neck down?

Questions, questions
aren't they the parts of life that makes everything a litte more interesting
keep those mind juices flowing...

Obstacles and hurdles.....

Obstacles don't have to stop you.
If you run into a wall,
don't turn around and give up.
Figure out how to climb it,
go through it,
or work around it.

- Michael Jordan -

Do obstacles really make us treasure something more?
Is that what they are there for?
Does this mean that if something were smooth sailing all the way
that we won't hold to it as dearly?
Is that what hurdles in life are for?

People tell me all the time that
if you get something easily, you won't treasure it
it's the obstacles that make you treasure your possession more....
The harder you work to get something,
the more effort you put into acquiring it
the more blood, sweat, and tears....
the more meaningful

Makes me think to myself
how close to the truth is this?

Does food you make, taste better than the food you buy?
not necessarily, but you sure as hell put some effort into and
am going to try to eat it, even if its bad....
can't be THAT bad anyway

Does a relationship that you worked harder for mean more?
Does an article you spend more time and effort on mean better work?

I can't think of logical questions at the moment
but I do think that its pretty clear what the verdict is

This does not hold true to all situations, there will be exceptions
there are always exceptions to the rule...
To each is own what they find are important to them
and what they choose to hold near and dear
other people may disagree
but who are we to judge

the CGoh....recipe for love

THE recipe:
1 bag of LOve
2 satchels of trust
2 satchels of communication
1 pack of commitment
6 cups of LUst
A dash of patience
A tablespoon of forgiveness
1 litre of compromise
1 slab of respect
An injection of fresh air
Cook at a slow simmer

GIVES YOU THE near PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.

Attachment....

Defined as
1. An act of attaching or a state of being attached
2. A feeling that binds one to a person, thing, cause, ideal, or the like; devotion;
3. An additional or supplementary device
4. Something attached, as a document added to a letter.

My, my, how many way a word can be defined.
language is such an amazing thing with each word having one/multiple meanings....

Search in the dictionary and one shall find
we can use such words in different applications and mean totally different things


like being attached to ones....car
there is only one way to describe this kind of attachment
it is the state of being attached.
a state where one feels an unsettling discomfort to let go

its funny how as humans we get attached to things
to people
and what do we do about this attachment....
how do we "solve" it
unable to just unattach like documents to an email,
guess, we'll just have to wait it out....
or stick with it.

Chinese New Year goodies.....mmmmm

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A little sumthing sumthing for this Vday

Was reading though O magazine and found some meaningful thoughts for this Valentines day.

Of course,I do believe that there is not really a reason to choose a specific day in the calendar to celebrate ones love....

Valentines can be everyday! or not...
no one needs a day on the calendar,
or some card designing company
to tell them
when to give loved ones flowers, chocolates, etc...
But hey, its valentines, so....

Enjoy, Indulge and remember....

"I have found that to love and be loved
is the most empowering
and exhilarating
of all human emotions."
- Jane Goodall -

"Still I enjoy
the long sweetness of
simultaneity,
yours and mine,
our and mine...."
- John Ashbery -

"Love is our true destiny.
We do not find the
meaning of life
by ourselves alone,
we find it with another."
- Thomas Merton -

" Love is my decision
to make your problems
my concern."
- Robert Schuller -